I need to preface this blog post by saying very clearly that I am not a seasoned veteran of homeschooling. We’re in our 5th school year as a homeschooling family, and some days that feels like such a long time. Other days, it feels like we’re still getting started. There are a few things that I can look back on, experiences and worries I had in the early early days of homeschooling, with a little insight. I recently had a conversation with a new homeschool mom about her fears and worries – and I started to think of all the things I wish I had been told when I started out.
You’re Going to Mess it ALL Up
Alright, new homeschool mom – let’s just get this one out of the way right off the hop. You’re going to mess it up – you’re going to pick the wrong curriculum. You’re going to create the wrong schedule. You’re going to join the wrong forest school, art class, or co-op.
You’re going to lay awake into the wee hours of the morning worrying about which math curriculum or history cycle is the right one. And you might decide to pick the wrong one.
But guess what? The world is going to keep turning, your children are going to come through all those hard days JUST fine. Guess what else? All those ‘wrong choices’ are going to lead you to better and better things.
You’ll figure out a routine that works, you’ll find a book or curriculum that lights your child’s eyes up, you guys will have smooth and easy days. Until something messes up again – and you learn, adjust, and change things until you’re back on track.
This isn’t failure – this is learning, and growing.
Perfection Is A Myth
I know, I know, this one seems like a no-brainer. We all KNOW that perfection isn’t really attainable. So then why do we keep chasing it?
Do we really think that one day, we’ll wake up in the morning and say “Ah yes. Everything is perfect. I can stop learning and trying new things now. I’ve made it!” Of course we won’t. So don’t go chasing something that you can never catch.
So my advice to you, the new homeschool mom? Enjoy the mess, enjoy the hustle and bustle, enjoy trying new things. You’ll never get it perfect, because perfect doesn’t exist.
So, Relax…No Really!
The irony of me, someone with anxiety and panic disorder, telling my readers to ‘relax’ is not lost on me. Never in the history of ever, has someone stopped freaking out when they’re told to stop freaking out.
But here’s the thing. When you’re a new homeschool mom, you’re going to freak out. You’re going to worry and you’re going to overthink. Those things are all normal (even for us not-so-new homeschoolers!) – but what you don’t want to do is live in those feelings.
Don’t fret and worry and panic so much about the future and choices you’ll need to make four years down the road – that you forget to live in the moment. In the here and now with your children.
Amazing things are happening – don’t be so caught up with worry that you forget to see how really great your kids are today.
Find Your Tribe – A Must For Any New Homeschool Mom
Dearest new homeschool mom – you will have days (or weeks or months) when you feel all alone in this homeschooling gig. Your kids may get sick of each other, you may even get sick of your kids!
I couldn’t do this homeschool thing without my tribe of amazing women – both in real life, and online. The women I can text or call or fire off a message on Facebook or Voxer and say “Today stinks”, or “man my kids just did the coolest thing”, or “sound the alarms and send the chocolate, this day is tanking”.
Find your people. Make friends with other homeschool moms – and see them with OR without your children. Have a support network to keep you going through the hard times, and rejoice with you in those amazing days where it’s all going just right.
If you can’t find a tribe? Scroll to the bottom of this blog post and reach out to me – I’ve got your back!